Setting Sail

Setting Sail

How do you know when its time to move on from a job, relationship or location?  Usually, it begins with a restlessness that is difficult to identify. Often times the feelings of discontentment will dissipate for a short period of time and then return with a vengeance.

You will start to question if its time to make a career change or end an unhappy relationship. Regardless of the situation, if you ignore the restless feelings that are stirring deep within, if you do not act on them, you may begin to experience a loss of energy or feelings of depression as nothing changes externally. Life is not meant to stay the same or it will stagnate. True growth occurs when life takes you out of your comfort zone.

Is it time for you to set sail and move on in some area of your life?  Hear the call, and trust that your journey will lead you to better shores.

Excavating Wounds

Everyone has wounds.  You cannot escape life without getting hurt emotionally, physically or mentally. It is a part of life.  But if you chose not to heal the wound, it will negatively affect the quality of your life and will rob you of energy.

Most people don’t want to talk about their wounds, but there is a process of healing that occurs when you are willing to release the pain and begin the journey to wholeness.  Wounds can occur in childhood, adolescences or adulthood.  To heal them, we need to excavate their roots or they will continue to grow and manifest as anger, anxiety and depression.

There are many theories on psychotherapy and healing.  One theory reports that if we do not process the trauma or wound, it will stay in our energy field (emotionally, mentally or physically) and can later metastasize into a physical problem or illness.  Talking and writing assist in releasing the wound and ignites the healing process, shifting it out of the body (physical which affects emotional and mental).

Everyone struggles with everyday stressors and past traumas, but you are not meant to carry these wounds for a lifetime.  Be kind to yourself, begin the healing process and excavate old painful experiences and traumas out of your system, so that you can live a happier, lighter life in the present.

Attachment to Anxiety

Most people experience anxiety on some level, whether it is mild, moderate or severe at different stages in their lives, but when anxiety prevents you from making healthy choices or moving forward, then it may be out of control.

There are many reasons for anxiety and a variety of successful treatments.  The first step is to look deeper into the anxiety and access where it originates from?  Did you have a parent who was in a constant state of worry or fear?  Sometimes parents do not have healthy coping skills and often unintentionally pass their anxiety onto their children.  Sometimes people stay in a state of anxiety because they don’t know how to free themselves from constant worry.  Although you may feel that you cannot control the anxiety, there are several methods to help you release the stress and tension both mentally and physically.

Some people just generally worry more than others.  I have heard clients say, “This is who I am”, taking on the role of anxiety as a part of their personality.  In life, at times, we can become so used to living in a constant worried or anxious state that we do not know what it feels like to be peaceful or relaxed.

Below is a list of popular and effective treatments that will help you feel calmer and healthier:

Talk to a Counselor who can help you identify the best method for you personally
Mindful Breathing
Yoga
Qiqong
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
Anxiety Tip:

Focus on your breathing 3 minutes a day to help ground yourself into your body.  Whenever you do anything physical, it helps you to reconnect with your body and get out of your mind (where anxiety lives).

Therapeutic Tool for Depression, Anger and Self-Esteem

The Dirty Cloud Maker

 Available on Amazon, Kindle, Apple Store and Google Play

The Dirty Cloud Maker is a therapeutic tool addressing anger, depression, and self-esteem issues in children and adolescents.

Read along with the paperback version, or use the interactive story app that allows children to pop dirty clouds and make negative emotions disappear as they journey with the Dirty Cloud Maker as he transforms his dark and miserable world to a joy filled happy life.

The Dirty Cloud Maker is an inspirational story about an angry troubled character who turns his bad thoughts into dark dirty clouds and sends them out into the universe where they negatively affect others.

The Dirty Cloud Maker is a reminder of the power of choices, and how each choice we make either brings us closer to happiness or leads us deeper into despair.

Available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Dirty-Cloud-Maker-Karolee-Bulak/dp/1721216847/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1533213981&sr=8-2&keywords=the+dirty+cloud+maker

 

Kindle:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FNH5FQ4

 

Apple Story App (Interactive):

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/dirty-cloud/id1406543017?mt=8

 

Google Play (Android):

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=book.KaroleeBulak.TheDirtyCloudMaker

Goodbye my Sweet

Sugar has proven to be as addictive as Cocaine but is commonly consumed worldwide.  Going off of sugar creates withdrawal symptoms and can be challenging, but research has linked sugar with many health problems and diseases.  For some of us, the effects are more harmful than others as some people experience a depressed mood, brain fog, low/high blood sugars, irritability, sleepiness and nagging cravings.

Here is John’s story about how he recently gave up years of soda addiction, which has left him with more energy, weight loss, and feeling overall better about himself.  John is a Freelance Trainer for Autism with an interest in alternative therapies.

“I have had an addiction to sugar for years and have used sugar as a way to control stress, but I also knew that going through withdrawals added to my stress levels too.  I have had many failed attempts at trying to reduce the number of sodas that I drank daily, but then an internal switch went on, and I realized that sugar was destroying my life.”

John goes on to say, “There are no quick fixes, as it took me over a month with serious withdrawal symptoms.”  John also explained that the word he focused on each day was, “Determination”.

“Sugar is very addictive.  Often times, we do not even recognize this until we begin to stop consuming sugar.”

Below is John’s recommendation to help assist with the detox process for soda.  John reports that this drink is a healthy option to soda cravings and has helped him lose weight and manage overall cravings.  He has also intermittently fasted but recommends that you check with your doctor before attempting to fast or make major diet changes.  John also said that reducing sugar was the beginning of his journey and that intermittent fasting helped him burn fat and lose weight.

John’s Lemon Lime Recipe:

Squeeze 1/2 fresh organic lemon and 1/2 fresh organic lime into a pint glass of water. Add some lemon and lime zest and drink up!

When Communication Stops

We all know someone who struggles with communication, whether it is a professional colleague, a close friend or even a family member.

So what do you do when they either refuse to communicate or simply can’t?  First of all, I would look at their history, do they have a pattern of shutting down or closing off?  If so, does the conflict get resolved?  If not, are you left feeling frustrated, angry or sad?

When communication becomes an issue in work, it’s critical to work through it.  If you are unsuccessful alone, then reach out to your Supervisor or Director to help mediate the issue as most likely the person who is refusing to communicate will be forced to deal with the problem with his or her superiors.

If it is a friend or family member that refuses to communicate with you, you can give them space, and if they are not willing to resolve or address the conflict at a later reasonable amount of time, then seek outside help from a counselor or psychologist, but if they refuse this option, then I would ask yourself several questions.  Is this person willing to work with you on resolving the conflict?  If not, do you want to stay in the relationship?  Does the relationship lift you up, support you, and encourage you when you are down or struggling?  Is the relationship positive or is this person someone who leaves you feeling bad about yourself with a history and pattern of unresolved conflicts.

There is a difference between people who do not know how to communicate and those who refuse to.  People who can’t communicate will still attempt to resolve issues in their own way, whereas people who refuse to talk or address the issue are most likely engaged in a power struggle in which they will win.  This person is not interested in working on the relationship but simply wants to punish you.

Sometimes in life, we are faced with ending relationships.  Life continually shifts and changes and the people in our lives come and go.  In a professional situation, you are more likely to be encouraged to work through issues, but often times, people leave work situations because of difficulties with their colleagues.

The next time you are dealing with someone who is not communicating, ask yourself if they are willing to but unable to express their needs, or if they are simply refusing to work through important problems or misunderstandings.  Are they willing to keep your relationship, whether personal or professional on healthy terms?

Communication is not natural for everyone, but the people that are willing to work through issues with you are the ones that you will have healthy relationships with and probably want to keep around.

What’s Your Story?

Story Cubes

A few years ago I was talking with a creative young writer and we decided to design our own story cubes.  We spent an hour thinking of unusual or abstract words and had fun making up stories with random cubes.

Being creative doesn’t mean you have to be a gifted artist, singer or writer, as creativity expresses itself in many ways.

What stories can you make out of the word cubes above?

Below is my version:

During my travels to Iowa, I met a laughing moose who was drinking Cuban coffee and eating a corndog in a local mall.

Letting Intuition Guide You

We are all born with intuition or inner knowledge.  This is a skill that we all have, although some people are more attuned to it than others, there is always that soft, subtle voice in the back of our heads saying, “You shouldn’t eat that” or “Don’t do it!”, but we often ignore this inner voice and allow our minds to take over.

Inner guidance is always accessible.  I have always had an uncanny ability to know how people are feeling and this intuitive skill has grown over the past several years so that when I meet someone, I know immediately if they are ok or if there is something wrong.  I can specfically pick up on emotional problems or issues people have.  I don’t have to know the person, often times they are complete strangers that I interact with.

I have learned how to listen to the messages that people are sending out energetically and often encourage them to open up and talk about what is bothering them, whether it is career, relationship, or health issues.  This ability allows me to assist in opening the healing process.

I am not alone in this ability to use my intuitive skills as it is accessible to everyone.  We just have to learn how to recognize it and learn how to hear our own guidance so that we can help ourselves and others in need.  If you are interested in getting help for an issue or problem that you have or simply want to develop your own intuition further, please use the contact form page above.

Android Story App for Anger and Depression

Interactive new story app about the power of choices and the importance of having hope!

The Dirty Cloud Maker

Now available on Google Play for $2.99. The Dirty Cloud Maker.  Available on Apple in July 2018.

The Dirty Cloud Maker is an inspirational story about an angry troubled character who turns his bad thoughts into dark dirty clouds and sends them out into the universe where they negatively affect others.

Journey with the Dirty Cloud Maker as he turns his miserable unhappy life, into a joy-filled, happy life.

The Dirty Cloud Maker is about the power of choices and how each choice either leads us to happiness or leads us further into despair.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=book.KaroleeBulak.TheDirtyCloudMaker

The Woman who Hasn’t Laughed in 30 Years

Laughter Therapy

I once met a woman at a laughter yoga workshop who bragged that she hadn’t laughed in thirty years.  Hearing this initially made me laugh, but then I thought, how sad…

Introductions were made at the beginning of the group as most people were there to have fun.  The energy felt light and exciting, but when it was this woman’s turn to introduce herself, everything shifted as she informed everyone that her life wasn’t happy and that she had not laughed in about three decades.  The room became silent and still and everyone’s body language changed as discomfort filled the room like a bad stench.  How could you have fun and be joyful when there was someone there who refused to laugh?  The facilitator was quick to move the group forward and lead us into a laughter exercise where the majority of us had fun and laughed about nothing.

Being a counselor, I could not help but to observe this woman to see if she would crack a smile or even giggle during the workshop, and on several occasions she was very close, but because she had introduced herself in such a negative way, she had to keep her guard up as well as her protective shield.  She had basically dared everyone at the beginning of the group to make her laugh but presented as impossible because if she had let go and enjoyed herself, her thirty-year laughter draught would have ended and then she would have to tell a different story.  Sometimes we can get stuck on negative or sad life stories, but you can always start a new story and put an end to the old one.

None of us escape life without problems or issues, that is a given fact.  Whatever the situation you find yourself in, remember that laughter is a stress reliever that increases your energy and fights off depression.  Although at the time you may not feel like laughing remember that this is exactly the time that you probably need it the most.  Laughter may not solve the initial problem or issues, but it provides a sense of relief and gives you permission to be in the present moment.

My goal is to laugh each day for the next thirty years! LOL