Starting Over

Life changes aren’t always easy. At some point in life, we all have to face them in various ways, a death of a parent, divorce, illness or relocation. At this time, I’m facing one of the biggest life changes I have ever faced and have found the process stressful and filled with challenges.

It’s easy to look back and reflect on regrets that we have or be filled with sorrow at what was or at what wasn’t, but that only prevents you from moving forward. I have to remind myself of this often.

Having recently moved 1,500 miles away to start a new life alone, I find the process extremely overwhelming, but my first priority is meeting new people, making contacts and exploring the area. I reflect as I make this transition as to what my old life was like, it was safe and comfortable, but I had also stopped growing. It is in difficult circumstances that we often grow the most. Although it doesn’t always feel good, it’s through this process that we go within, reach out to others and find inner strengths that we never knew we had. Sometimes it feels as if we are being tested beyond our limitations, but it is through these challenges that everyday life becomes more meaningful. It is also during these times when we experience the helpfulness of other people and connection to spirit.

No matter who you are, there will be a point in your life when you are faced with what feels like an insurmountable challenge, but when you find yourself in this place, remember what may appear as a crisis or disaster, will be an opening to a greater life than you could ever imagine. Although I am not through my transition yet, I trust that all is for my higher good. If it were up to me, I would stay in a safe zone, but often in life, we are pushed or shoved out of our comfort zone and into new and untravelled territory, where we must sink or swim and sinking isn’t an option. There are people who are life preservers that can help us through our difficulties. All you have to do is reach out.

I also believe that it is through our own hardships that we are better able to help others along their paths. Sometimes the path ends, sometimes the path leads us to unexplored places, people, and experiences. Trust the process even if you can’t see the end of the path or where it leads. Sometimes it’s just about surrendering to what was and what will be. Surrendering isn’t always easy either, but sometimes its easier than fighting or clinging to an old way of life that no longer exists.

Life is a journey of ups and downs and changes in directions. Trust that when the path ends, another one will begin and while you are exploring, make connections with others along the way.